TAL #064 MY GRIT, GRACE + GRATITUDE

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • Finding strength through our challenges

  • Why paying attention to who we are helps us

  • What collaborating looked like

  • What makes us tick and why knowing the answer helps us get through life’s challenges

  • The shorthand that current and former family caregivers share

  • Living in full color

  • We all know what is best for each of us and we are perfect just as we are

  • Defining Grit, Grace + Gratitude

  • No matter our age, we’re all trying to learn about who we are

  • A bit about the two 80-year old women who’ve done the book

  • What happened when Colleen debuted the book earlier this month

  • The crazy thing that happened when Colleen unveiled a pair of panties in front of an audience

  • How the prompts in this book have changed Colleen and Deb

During AFTER THOUGHTS Colleen takes you through one of the workbook exercises and shows how we can ignite our gratitude and become more present by engaging our five senses.

QUOTES OF NOTE:

Happiness and optimism are a choice.
— Deb Kelsey-Davis
Life is meant to be lived in color.
— Deb Kelsey-Davis
Some of the biggest lies we tell are to ourselves.
— Deb Kelsey-Davis

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TAL #063 BETH SCIBIENSKI

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • The story behind Beth’s new book, Who is God When We Hurt?

  • The indictment of the question of “Where was God”? and why it leaves us stuck

  • Facing the derailment of our plans

  • How searching for God is like making stew

  • The responsibility we have to understand who God is

  • Expanding, tweaking, fixing her definition of God

  • How her relationship to God and her prayer life changed during caregiving to her husband

  • The illusion of control and why we can’t always think about it

  • Answering the questions of where is God, why is this hurting, and why is this happening to me?

  • Why the search for God is about interpretation

  • Noah’s Ark - why you’ll never want to decorate a child’s nursery with this motif ever again

  • The mini-deaths of chronic illness

  • The power of community and affirming others in their grief

  • Who’s making clam sauce for dinner

  • Moving on and maintaining the love of a lost partner

  • The wisdom, understanding, and grace she received from other widows

  • The blessing in hearing the stories of those who’ve gone before you

  • What she hopes readers walk away with after reading her book

During AFTER THOUGHTS Colleen brings her attention to the themes of caring is caring, the strength gained from others, and the wisdom of the shared stories of those who’ve gone before us.

QUOTES OF NOTE:

There are things you can do to make bitter better.
— Beth Scibienski
Clearly, my idea of who God was was incorrect, or not fully known.
— Beth Scibienski
All of our stories make up the whole.
— Beth Scibienski

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TAL #062 DORI FRAME

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • Why living in Hawaii is paradise to Dori

  • What her Great Dane, Reykjavik, is teaching Dori

  • Her reaction to Reykjavik’s diagnosis of Degenerative Myelopathy and how she flipped the script

  • What is bringing more joy into their lives

  • Living in the moment and how it affects communication, especially when one party is unable to speak

  • The four life lessons she’s learned

  • The beauty in a creature who has no internal story

  • Becoming ambassadors of living in the present

  • The danger in listening to the stories of others

  • The necessity of living her own life

  • Why, if you are a caregiver, you may want a time-tracker

  • Why lowering the bar is a good thing

  • The size of a caregiver’s ego

  • The importance of enjoying what still exists

  • Living with uncertainty

  • Water and sound therapy

  • What ultimate freedom means to Dori

  • No longer believing work equals worth

  • How caregiving helps her be in the present moment and connect with others

  • New ways of being and keeping the fun in living

  • The gift from Reykjavik she’ll be unwrapping forever

During AFTER THOUGHTS Colleen shares how she came to practicing presence in her life and explains why it is an escape hatch from worry and anxiety.

QUOTES OF NOTE:

I am glad I didn’t focus on the diagnosis.
— Dori Frame
Sometimes you need time for yourself just to sit down and say, okay, I don’t need to be doing this, this, or this. What do I want to do just for myself right now?
— Dori Frame
Live in the joy of the moment, not the fear of the future.
— Dori Frame

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SHOW NOTES:

Dori’s website

Dori on Instagram

Dori on Facebook

The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle

A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle

Previous TAL episodes mentioned during the show:

TAL with Mary Dowling

TAL with Cynthia Lim

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TAL #061 CYNTHIA LIM

TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • How Cynthia’s husband’s cardiac arrest left him with a disabling brain injury and altered their lives in an instant

  • Writing a memoir in response to her search for how families cope with brain injury

  • Deciding this disability would not define their lives

  • Allowing time to mourn the diagnosis

  • How and where she found support

  • Getting used to the loss of freedom due to caregiving

  • What continuing to work full time gave her

  • A surprising thing she learned about the healthcare industry

  • What she permitted herself to do

  • Confronting the doubts within her

  • Uncle Ralph, and why most family caregivers have on of their very own

  • Experiencing love and joy as a theme for care

  • Living with the constant grief of slowly losing someone who is still there

  • What she is creating to comfort her during her grief

  • Sitting on the precipice of an unknown future

  • What she’d tell herself the day of her husband’s cardiac arrest

  • What journaling does for family caregivers

  • Her message to family caregivers

During AFTER THOUGHTS Colleen addresses the issue of our proverbial Uncle Ralph’s and suggests the power in telling compassionate stories about the people around us who are less than positive and shares the reassurance that you are doing everything perfectly, regardless of what Uncle Ralph has to say, especially when you are caring from the bottom of your heart.

QUOTES OF NOTE:

I think I’m a much stronger person.
— Cynthia Lim
It didn’t defeat me.
— Cynthia Lim
Even now there are some chapters that are really hard for me to read.
— Cynthia Lim

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SHOW NOTES:

Cynthia’s website

Cynthia’s book, Wherever You Are

Cynthia on Facebook

Cynthia on Twitter

LET'S DANCE: 

Subscribe to the podcast: THE AFTER LIFE

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Email me: Colleen@TheLongestDance.com

If you really like what you're hearing, pass the show on to a friend.

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TAL #060 c. RENÉ WASHINGTON

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • How and why c. René made a huge life change in her mid-40’s

  • A recovering control freak finds life upended by menopause, a stroke, the death of her mother, and divorce

  • How seeing the impact her mother had on the world was a catalyst for her to begin living fully

  • Why The Rolling Stones perfectly illustrate how arbitrary life can be

  • Losing her “edit button”

  • The signs God was packing her bags to leave her job

  • How she fell into her new coaching business

  • Noticing the mental blocks that keep us stuck

  • Learning to trust herself by putting faith in God

  • Living 98% intuitively and seeing her new path open up before her

  • The Body Compass Method (you’ll love this!)

  • Why her mantra is “Let that shxt go!”

  • How we can bring awareness to self-sabotaging behaviors

  • Getting still with ourselves and noticing how we feel

  • The magic in changing “I should” to “I choose” in relation to our obligations

  • How life coaching is different from traditional therapy

  • Unhappiness is about YOU, not THEM

  • Sistermind - what this 6-month program is all about

  • Staying open and expectant to the good things

  • Why it’s never too late to reinvent yourself

  • The curse of gratefulness

During AFTER THOUGHTS Colleen reflects on the first time she realized we are capable of living different lifetimes within our single lifetime via reinvention.

QUOTES OF NOTE:

As women, we sit on so much untapped power.
— c. René Washington
If we really connect to who we really are and what we really want, this doesn’t make us more selfish, it expands our ability to give.
— c. René Washington
Every day is a new opportunity.
— c. René Washington

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TAL #059 TAMI NEUMANN

TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • Turning 50 and asking “How do I want to create my life?”

  • The shift of having life happen to us to intentionally creating the life we want

  • Reflections at a new stage in life and seeing ourselves in a new light

  • Excitedly walking into the second half of life

  • Allowing time to grieve for the daily losses of living

  • The insightful advice from her daughter

  • Realizing her children’s opportunities are also her opportunities

  • Losing herself in her business and losing her cool

  • Consciously creating balance while simultaneously welcoming change

  • How her past interests influence her pleasures today

  • The energy shift of living in your highest excitement

  • Tami’s rituals of self-care

  • How caregiving, personally and professionally, have changed her

  • Realizing creating industry-wide change doesn't happen overnight and coming to terms with this reality

  • The one thing she knows for sure about life

  • What a balanced life looks like to Tami

  • Debunking the hustle and no sleep myths

  • The importance of showing up for ourselves and others

  • Looking critically at our working hours vs. productivity

  • What the shift in her life is really about

  • The power of letting go to let things in


Inspired by all of Tami’s energy and plans for the future, during AFTER THOUGHTS Colleen gives you an idea of what working with her via one-on-one Life-casting sessions looks like and announces her newest business dream.

THE LIFE-CASTING QUESTIONNAIRE:

Enter your name + email, sign up to my list and voila!

Grab your journal + favorite pen and discover your answers today.


QUOTES OF NOTE:

The world is my oyster. I can do whatever I want.
— Tami Neumann
By me kind of letting go, I’ve opened up these other ways of being in connection with people.
— Tami Neumann
I’m only 50. I’m pretty damn young. I can do a hell of a lot in the next 50 years.
— Tami Neumann

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TAL #058 OGUN HOLDER

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • What Ogun learned about the process of grief

  • Receiving a diagnosis during a rocky point of his marriage

  • When the real work of grieving began for him

  • How therapy and energy healing helped him

  • The difference between the 1st and 2nd year of grieving

  • Surrendering to grief without resistance

  • His boxing match with grief

  • What happens when we allow our hearts to crack open

  • Working through anger

  • Realizing his wife was still there with him and their daughter

  • Discovering the pleasant memories in the midst of grief

  • The meaning we assign to our life is how we experience it

  • The power in telling the funny stories about the deceased

  • The idea of being a “love trigger”

  • Why the simple moments of living bring on the tears

  • How grieving was different for himself and his daughter

  • Why the loss of a parent is more permanent to a chid than the loss of a spouse to a spouse

  • How he and his daughter are closer through loss

  • Creating an outlet for the emotions we store in our bodies

  • How he ministers his congregation differently

  • The transformative anchoring of the grief process

  • On staying present to the opportunities for connection

  • Ikigai - what it is and how it relates to grieving

  • The grief timeline

  • Being okay

  • The comfort in hearing stories

During AFTER THOUGHTS, Colleen talks about living the moments we could never plan into existence and the gifts we can receive when we allow ourselves to live in the present.

QUOTES OF NOTE:

Anything isn’t inherently good or bad, it’s how we choose to label it.
— Ogun Holder
We’re okay.
— Ogun Holder
There is no right or wrong time. It takes as long as it takes.
— Ogun Holder

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TAL #057 ENGRID LATINA

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • Experiencing true freedom with our bodies and food

  • Invalidating ourselves by not listening to our intuition

  • The process of reawakening our intuition

  • Waking up to the wounds we carry so they stop hurting

  • Engrid’s experience with anorexia as her wounds manifested

  • Unworthiness messages from her parents due to their unhealed wounds

  • The disconnection from her true self

  • The value in knowing the disorder is a separate entity and isn’t actually you

  • How the physical reflects the mental state of the person with an eating disorder

  • How her boyfriend’s nutrition class saved her life

  • The role Paris played in her recover from ED

  • The brainwashing of food and diet culture myths

  • The role of stress in eating

  • The danger of restriction

  • Intuitive eating

  • Why you may consider not being weighed at your annual physical

  • The one thing she would tell every woman

  • Dropping the stories we tell ourselves

  • The inner wisdom of our inner voice


In AFTER THOUGHTS, Colleen considers the phrase “you’re allowed” and what happens when we get quiet enough to listen to our intuition and surrender to our inner wisdom.

QUOTES OF NOTE:

In living against our truth and not being in tune with it, that’s where the suffering comes.
— Engrid Latina
I don’t think the default pattern is to hate our self.
— Engrid Latina
Your inner voice, if you get quiet and listen to her, will never steer you wrong.
— Engrid Latina

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TAL #056 SAMANTHA HORTON

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • What happened when Samantha moved out of her parent's home

  • Where her father currently is and why he's there

  • The damaging narrative her mother gave her via compliments

  • The extreme guilt she felt and the family system she obeyed

  • Her final tipping point in ending the relationship with her father

  • What a private bible study revealed to her

  • How a bible verse and screaming at God freed her

  • The destructive power of trying to live up to the labels given to her by others

  • Realizing what she needed to do to reconcile with her past

  • Learning to allow herself to feel emotions again

  • Understanding clinically what happened to her

  • The word victim and its stigma but why it may be a necessary part in the process of becoming a victor

  • Learning to give the empathy to herself that she gave to others

  • Trusting her intuition again

  • How her current church restored hope, faith, and healing

  • Deconstructing the toxic theology she grew up in

  • Learning it's okay to hold things loosely

  • The meaning of the word freedom to her

Also, in AFTER THOUGHTS, Colleen provides information on why and where to find help for yourself or someone else if any type of child abuse is occurring or suspected

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

I still love who I was then because it led me to who I am today.
— Samantha Horton
I had to stop focusing on every external in my life and spend some time focusing on me.
— Samantha Horton
It’s okay to hold things loosely. It’s okay not to have all the right answers at any given moment.
— Samantha Horton

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SHOW NOTES:

Samantha on Instagram

Samantha on Twitter

Samantha on Facebook

Samantha's email: srhorton15@gmail.com

The Wounded Heart by Dr. Dan B. Allender

The Enneagram Institute

A free online Enneagram test

Vinings Lake Church

Child Welfare.gov

Childhelp® National Child Abuse Hotline:

1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) 

You can find Part 1 of Samantha's interview here. 

 

LET'S DANCE: 

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Email me: Colleen@TheLongestDance.com

If you really like what you're hearing, pass the show on to a friend.

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TAL #055 SAMANTHA HORTON

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • The Enneagram: what it is + how it gave her the language to know herself better

  • The value of noticing our good and bad patterns to enable us not to run from challenges

  • Her intentionality in slowing down and being present during the busiest time of her life

  • Coming to terms with the many chapters of her life

  • Being raised in instability and around drug addiction

  • Her first memory of molestation

  • Mentally escaping to block reality

  • The false promise of her father's recovery

  • Substance abuse being swapped for evangelicalism

  • Her feelings of fear and responsibility around the abuse

  • Immersing herself in school and her social life to compartmentalize her two lives

  • Attempting to get help as an 8th grader

  • Fighting feelings of self-hatred

  • How her experience affects her parenting

Then, during AFTER THOUGHTS, consider what happens when we share our stories in the way Samantha has shared hers and to consider all the untold stories people carry with them.

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

I was raised to think I was worthless from the start.
— Samantha Horton
My children are going to know I love and cherish them above all.
— Samantha Horton
I hope, at the end of the day, my kids can look back on their childhood and growing up in our home and know that it was a place of love and safety.
— Samantha Horton

LISTEN TO THE SHOW:

 

SHOW NOTES:

Samantha on Instagram

Samantha on Twitter

Samantha on Facebook

Samantha's email: srhorton15@gmail.com

The Wounded Heart by Dr. Dan B. Allender

The Enneagram Institute

A free online Enneagram test

Vinings Lake Church

Child Welfare.gov

Childhelp® National Child Abuse Hotline:

1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) 

 

You can find Part 2 of Samantha's interview here.

 

LET'S DANCE: 

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TAL #054 CATHY BRAXTON

TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • Where Cathy is at with her radical boundary setting since her last visit

  • Staying accountable through sharing and speaking your truth

  • How Cathy knew she was ready to share her story publicly

  • What prepping for these interviews was like for Cathy

  • Her new ability to notice enabling behaviors in others

  • Codependent behavior triggers

  • The heaviness that is no longer with her

  • What has happened to her physical symptoms

  • Why cutting someone out of your life doesn't 100% solve the problem

  • Where the grief lies in the separation from her parents

  • Not taking on the judgment of others

  • Navigating boundary setting as it relates to her children

  • A disturbing email exchange from "one" of her parents

  • Healthy vs. unhealthy relationships in the face of conflict

  • Fixers and enablers and the healthy line in the middle

  • Her advice to anyone who is in a similar situation

Then, during AFTER THOUGHTS, Colleen muses on losing fear and the power of sharing.

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

Not everyone is going to bring out the best in you.
— Cathy Braxton
A healthy relationship can handle turmoil.
— Cathy Braxton
It is so freeing to live without fear.
— Cathy Braxton

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#053 KATRINA McGHEE

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • Living the life we think we should live vs. living the life we want to live
  • How + why Katrina saved $40k in order to take a 20-month career break
  • The difference between living a life that's fine vs. extraordinary 
  • What college set her up for
  • Why we are taught not to trust our feelings
  • When she realized her dream job was a nightmare
  • How long it took her to end that nightmare
  • How she knew to trust her inner voice that told her to travel
  • The empowerment behind saying "I get to leave"
  • How the loss of her brother has affected her
  • Her gratitude and presence challenge
  • The interesting technique she uses to keep her present
  • How we can "color outside the lines" in our daily lives
  • An "Exploration Fund" - what it is and why you may want one
  • Where Katrina is traveling to next
  • Her advice to someone who may be stuck in life

Then, in AFTER THOUGHTS, Colleen asks: What can we be doing to create more, express ourselves more deeply, add fun to our days, and pursue our interests? Right here. Right now. (The photo below will show you what she's now doing.) 

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

Following somebody else’s path doesn’t lead to my own personal happiness.
— Katrina McGhee
Investing an intentional amount of money holds you to a goal.
— Katrina McGhee
I’m here to experience life and help others.
— Katrina McGhee

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 From AFTER THOUGHTS:  The stolen end of Colleen's dining table   

From AFTER THOUGHTS:

The stolen end of Colleen's dining table

 

 

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TAL #052 DAVID B. WATTS

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • What life as a private investigator really looks like
  • Trusting in the next thing to appear in his life
  • The pleasure David gets from writing
  • How he's turned his career into creating content
  • What drives him to love his work
  • How one secretary's reconsideration altered his career
  • Appreciating the way things in life appear
  • One of his most interesting investigations
  • How technology has changed and what he wishes he had years ago
  • The data a licensed investigator has access to
  • The key to working well with a spouse
  • Letting the work speak for itself
  • Social changes over the last five decades
  • His advice on taking your career and writing a book about it

Stay tuned for AFTER THOUGHTS as Colleen reflects on the ways society has changed and she considers what we might do to make this world a little less coarse and a little more hope-filled.

QUOTES OF NOTE:

Opportunities are not always that visible, sometimes you have to make them.
— David B. Watts
Being honest and trying to do the best for people usually works.
— David B. Watts
Hope is not dead.
— David B. Watts

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LET'S DANCE:

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TAL #051 KATHE CRAWFORD

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • Kathe's story + her secret

  • A devastating diagnosis + the price of a promise of silence

  • The length of time it took to set herself free from the secret

  • Her search for happiness

  • Learning the teachings of spirituality

  • What removed the shield around her heart

  • Being lost in life and other's stories

  • What she had to learn to do to live a rich + full life

  • Learning what love is

  • How to open your heart with loved ones

  • Tapping into the wisdom of our hearts

  • How we can begin to un-story ourselves

  • The people we should surround ourselves with

  • The "Your Truth(full) Life" community

  • How Kathe was inspired to write her story

  • How her life changed when she released her story

Stay tuned for AFTER THOUGHTS as Colleen talks about what happens when we share the light of wisdom gained from sharing our stories and how she'll be bringing the podcast to life during a live event with Kathe in September 2018.  

And, the live event, Courageous Conversations, has occurred and it was a wonderful afternoon of connection. Thank you to everyone who attended and I’ll see you at the next event!

QUOTES OF NOTE:

I have a choice to stay stuck in my story, stuck in what was, or; I have a chance to step into the brilliance of myself and who I am.
— Kathe Crawford
Love yourself because when you learn to love yourself you can then give love, receive love, and be love.
— Kathe Crawford
When I got rid of the shame and I got rid of the fear of judgment, everything changed.
— Kathe Crawford

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Kathe's gift to you when you order her book.

Click image for all the details.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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My copy of Kathe's book with all 82 flags.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Previous TAL episode mentioned during the show:

TAL with Catherine Greer

 

LET'S DANCE:

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TAL #050 CATHERINE GREER

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • Aging + the shackling pressure to appear younger than we are
  • What sparked Catherine's decision to go gray at age 50
  • Why she stopped apologizing for loving beauty
  • Finding our authentic voices
  • Learning to age better
  • Thoughts on "classic age"
  • Beginning her creative career at age 48
  • Catherine's one key to happiness
  • The power in releasing blame in a relationship
  • Why trying to be fun to live with is important
  • The Kindness Revolution: what it is and how to participate in it
  • Her mission to inspire and show possibility to others 
  • Why NOW is the time
  • How she is different at age 50 than she was at age 30

Stay tuned for AFTER THOUGHTS where Colleen shares the power of aligning ourselves to people who can help us get closer to realizing our dreams and why we should consider adding happiness to our day for no special reason.

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

I just love beauty everywhere.
— Catherine Greer
You get more of what you focus on.
— Catherine Greer
We’re here to express ourselves.
— Catherine Greer

LISTEN TO THE SHOW:

 

SHOW NOTES:

Catherine's website

Jacaranda Snow 

Love, Lie, Repeat - book and link coming soon!

Choosing Happiness 

 

LET'S DANCE:

Subscribe to the podcast: THE AFTER LIFE

Subscribe to the newsletter: THE LONGEST DANCE

Follow me on: Instagram or Facebook

Email me: Colleen@TheLongestDance.com

If you like what you're hearing, pass the show on to a friend.

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TAL #049 RICHIE SANTA

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • Richie's thoughts on if Elvis is still alive
  • That "extra something" Elvis had
  • How Richie first discovered Elvis
  • The process of becoming Elvis (+ the outfits!)
  • The number of shows he's performed
  • What makes a great audience
  • On posing with the lady fans
  • Why Elvis' success is unmatched
  • Graceland: why every fan must visit at least once
  • The other artists Richie is able to emulate
  • What he believes is needed to be successful
  • Advice to anyone not living their passion
  • How to go after what you want in life
  • The importance of having the support of others when trying to make a dream happen

Then, in AFTER THOUGHTS Colleen shares how this interview came to be and how you can find inspiration from a stranger by simply saying hello. 

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

It’s part of my happiness. It’s part of what fuels me. It’s part of what keeps me going. It’s part of what I look forward to.
— Richie Santa
I just decided to do what I like and not do what I don’t like.
— Richie Santa
You can coast through life and never take any risks but in order to really live and not just exist, you have to jump, you have to take a shot at something.
— Richie Santa

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 What it looked like when I met Richie in Asbury Park.  June 2018

What it looked like when I met Richie in Asbury Park.

June 2018

 

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TAL #048 MARY DOWLING

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • What Mary learned about our need to live a life filled with love at any time of life
  • Shifting from long-distance to local caregiving
  • Realizing the reality, dread, sadness, and responsibility of what was ahead
  • Raising children to thrive while watching a parent decline
  • How the emotional process of her mom's Alzheimer's diagnosis was different than her dad's Cancer
  • What she wishes she had done more of when caring for her mom
  • Finding ways to connect with a person in the late stages of dementia
  • Ways of dealing with losing a parent
  • Hitting a wall due to the stress and loss of connection of caring for a person living with dementia
  • Control as a coping mechanism
  • The Clicker! And how Mary channeled her inner MacGyver with Krazy Glue, wires, clamps and batteries
  • Involving her school-aged children in the care of her mom
  • Stepping into her mom's reality
  • Legal guardianship
  • Feeling resentment and losing it after finding support 
  • Delayed grief and the surprising moment that let the emotional floodgates open
  • Retrospectively taking stock of caregiving accomplishments
  • How memories of her mom have shifted two years after her death

 

In AFTER THOUGHTS Colleen shares her feelings for Mary and her mother because of the important roles they played in her life and the life of her father. And then she shares her thoughts on love as it relates to persons living with dementia. 

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

We all want that feeling of being loved and wanted and needed and seen and looked for.
— Mary Dowling
You will survive.
— Mary Dowling
If you try to pretend like you can do it all and it’s effortless and you’re so on top of it and you’ve got it all together, you’re going to crash and burn.
— Mary Dowling

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SHOW NOTES:

Mary is living a private life off the grid. If you'd like to get in touch with her, contact Colleen below and she'll be happy to connect you. 

 The "Bobbin For Apples Pudding Cake"

The "Bobbin For Apples Pudding Cake"

 

 

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TAL #047 ERICA HORNTHAL

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • Dance/Movement Therapy: what it is and how it is (and isn't) like traditional talk therapy
  • How Erica blended two things that clicked for her and turned them into a career
  • What a dance/movement therapy session looks like
  • Movement therapy to release trauma
  • Acknowledging the emotions we hold in our bodies
  • Movement as a way to quicken therapy
  • Who can best benefit from movement therapy
  • Ways of connection to ourselves and others holistically
  • Body scanning as a way to bring emotional wellness
  • Meeting others in the moment as a way to validate their emotions
  • The science behind movement's impact on our brains and mental health
  • The benefits of emotional release, expression, connection, social engagement, self-awareness, and self-esteem
  • Why your body is your biggest tool for feeling better emotionally
  • How Erica practices what she preaches (and how we can as well)
  • Somatic Countertransference: what it is and how to prevent it
  • Taking responsibility for our emotions
  • Changing your outlook through movement

 

In AFTER THOUGHTS Colleen adds to the discussion about somatic countertransference and how she chose to consciously throw away feelings of negativity.

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

It’s okay to not be okay.
— Erica Hornthal
We tend to focus on what we’ve lost, not what we’re still capable of.
— Erica Hornthal
Your body is your biggest tool to make yourself feel better.
— Erica Hornthal

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SHOW NOTES:

Erica's website for Chicago Dance Therapy

Erica on Twitter

Erica on Instagram

Erica on Facebook

American Dance Therapy Association  

 

LET'S DANCE:

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TAL #046 JACK ARPERT

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • What Jack has seen while traveling the world for five years
  • Bridging the gap between fear and possibility
  • The role Jack's mom played in his dream of travel + reflections on their evolved relationship
  • How the wisdom of his 19-year-old self looks different at 27
  • What he is happy not to have looming over him
  • How he finances travel
  • The one thing we can do to live more sustainably
  • His views on America after traveling abroad
  • How to re-evaluate obligations in order to live your dreams
  • The awareness of living a conscious life
  • Connection with others and the power in hearing their stories
  • Ways to get people to talk with you
  • A few of his favorite things for travel
  • How to scare away a grizzly bear
  • How to live bigger
  • A surprising outcome from traveling

 

Then, during AFTER THOUGHTS hear how the heck Colleen met someone who is living such a life of adventure and what she (a self-confessed homebody) shares in common with Jack, a world traveler. And find out what she wants you to do today. 

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

Don’t just walk by someone. At least just smile at them.
— Jack Arpert
We need to share what is good inside of us with other people and drag what’s good out of them.
— Jack Arpert
When you can live with the ambition to positively affect as many people and as much of the planet as possible, it will come easier to you.
— Jack Arpert

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TAL #045 JUSTIN BILLS + MÉLANIE KERN

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • In light of current world affairs, two pastors from different traditions respond to the question, "Why does God allow bad things to happen?"
  • The importance of defining our idea of God
  • How institutions and the Bible inform our ideas of God
  • The biggest question of faith
  • Releasing our need for quick answers
  • Why we let our enemies make us just like them
  • How to bring different tools to the table than the tools evil is bringing
  • Bringing our energies of light and compassion to end the darkness
  • Free will and its role in negative choices
  • The power of being a faithful presence of love and hope in the face of oppression
  • Why the resilience of the human heart is greater than the forces trying to push us down
  • The power in loving and serving people in the midst of pain and suffering
  • Doing the right thing regardless of the government's actions
  • Creating a wildfire of love
  • Asking: "How do I want to respond to this?"
  • Having everything we need, just as we are in this moment
  • Why anger and frustration aren't bad when we are faced with injustice

 

Then, during AFTER THOUGHTS Colleen reflects on the conversation and questions how we can move away from the despair of world news, a new diagnosis, or a misunderstanding and create goodness.

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

Do you want to add to the noise or do you want to be raging with compassion?
— Justin Bills
Change is not dependent on a government.
— Justin Bills
Evil is an absence of goodness.
— Mélanie Kern
Light is always stronger than darkness.
— Mélanie Kern

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