TAL #057 ENGRID LATINA

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • Experiencing true freedom with our bodies and food

  • Invalidating ourselves by not listening to our intuition

  • The process of reawakening our intuition

  • Waking up to the wounds we carry so they stop hurting

  • Engrid’s experience with anorexia as her wounds manifested

  • Unworthiness messages from her parents due to their unhealed wounds

  • The disconnection from her true self

  • The value in knowing the disorder is a separate entity and isn’t actually you

  • How the physical reflects the mental state of the person with an eating disorder

  • How her boyfriend’s nutrition class saved her life

  • The role Paris played in her recover from ED

  • The brainwashing of food and diet culture myths

  • The role of stress in eating

  • The danger of restriction

  • Intuitive eating

  • Why you may consider not being weighed at your annual physical

  • The one thing she would tell every woman

  • Dropping the stories we tell ourselves

  • The inner wisdom of our inner voice


In AFTER THOUGHTS, Colleen considers the phrase “you’re allowed” and what happens when we get quiet enough to listen to our intuition and surrender to our inner wisdom.

QUOTES OF NOTE:

In living against our truth and not being in tune with it, that’s where the suffering comes.
— Engrid Latina
I don’t think the default pattern is to hate our self.
— Engrid Latina
Your inner voice, if you get quiet and listen to her, will never steer you wrong.
— Engrid Latina

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TAL #056 SAMANTHA HORTON

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • What happened when Samantha moved out of her parent's home

  • Where her father currently is and why he's there

  • The damaging narrative her mother gave her via compliments

  • The extreme guilt she felt and the family system she obeyed

  • Her final tipping point in ending the relationship with her father

  • What a private bible study revealed to her

  • How a bible verse and screaming at God freed her

  • The destructive power of trying to live up to the labels given to her by others

  • Realizing what she needed to do to reconcile with her past

  • Learning to allow herself to feel emotions again

  • Understanding clinically what happened to her

  • The word victim and its stigma but why it may be a necessary part in the process of becoming a victor

  • Learning to give the empathy to herself that she gave to others

  • Trusting her intuition again

  • How her current church restored hope, faith, and healing

  • Deconstructing the toxic theology she grew up in

  • Learning it's okay to hold things loosely

  • The meaning of the word freedom to her

Also, in AFTER THOUGHTS, Colleen provides information on why and where to find help for yourself or someone else if any type of child abuse is occurring or suspected

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

I still love who I was then because it led me to who I am today.
— Samantha Horton
I had to stop focusing on every external in my life and spend some time focusing on me.
— Samantha Horton
It’s okay to hold things loosely. It’s okay not to have all the right answers at any given moment.
— Samantha Horton

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SHOW NOTES:

Samantha on Instagram

Samantha on Twitter

Samantha on Facebook

Samantha's email: srhorton15@gmail.com

The Wounded Heart by Dr. Dan B. Allender

The Enneagram Institute

A free online Enneagram test

Vinings Lake Church

Child Welfare.gov

Childhelp® National Child Abuse Hotline:

1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) 

You can find Part 1 of Samantha's interview here. 

 

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TAL #055 SAMANTHA HORTON

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • The Enneagram: what it is + how it gave her the language to know herself better

  • The value of noticing our good and bad patterns to enable us not to run from challenges

  • Her intentionality in slowing down and being present during the busiest time of her life

  • Coming to terms with the many chapters of her life

  • Being raised in instability and around drug addiction

  • Her first memory of molestation

  • Mentally escaping to block reality

  • The false promise of her father's recovery

  • Substance abuse being swapped for evangelicalism

  • Her feelings of fear and responsibility around the abuse

  • Immersing herself in school and her social life to compartmentalize her two lives

  • Attempting to get help as an 8th grader

  • Fighting feelings of self-hatred

  • How her experience affects her parenting

Then, during AFTER THOUGHTS, consider what happens when we share our stories in the way Samantha has shared hers and to consider all the untold stories people carry with them.

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

I was raised to think I was worthless from the start.
— Samantha Horton
My children are going to know I love and cherish them above all.
— Samantha Horton
I hope, at the end of the day, my kids can look back on their childhood and growing up in our home and know that it was a place of love and safety.
— Samantha Horton

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SHOW NOTES:

Samantha on Instagram

Samantha on Twitter

Samantha on Facebook

Samantha's email: srhorton15@gmail.com

The Wounded Heart by Dr. Dan B. Allender

The Enneagram Institute

A free online Enneagram test

Vinings Lake Church

Child Welfare.gov

Childhelp® National Child Abuse Hotline:

1-800-4-A-CHILD (1-800-422-4453) 

 

You can find Part 2 of Samantha's interview here.

 

LET'S DANCE: 

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TAL #054 CATHY BRAXTON

TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • Where Cathy is at with her radical boundary setting since her last visit 
  • Staying accountable through sharing and speaking your truth
  • How Cathy knew she was ready to share her story publicly
  • What prepping for these interviews was like for Cathy
  • Her new ability to notice enabling behaviors in others
  • Codependent behavior triggers
  • The heaviness that is no longer with her
  • What has happened to her physical symptoms
  • Why cutting someone out of your life doesn't 100% solve the problem
  • Where the grief lies in the separation from her parents
  • Not taking on the judgment of others
  • Navigating boundary setting as it relates to her children
  • A disturbing email exchange from "one" of her parents
  • Healthy vs. unhealthy relationships in the face of conflict
  • Fixers and enablers and the healthy line in the middle
  • Her advice to anyone who is in a similar situation

Then, during AFTER THOUGHTSColleen muses on losing fear and the power of sharing.

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

Not everyone is going to bring out the best in you.
— Cathy Braxton
A healthy relationship can handle turmoil.
— Cathy Braxton
It is so freeing to live without fear.
— Cathy Braxton

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#053 KATRINA McGHEE

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • Living the life we think we should live vs. living the life we want to live
  • How + why Katrina saved $40k in order to take a 20-month career break
  • The difference between living a life that's fine vs. extraordinary 
  • What college set her up for
  • Why we are taught not to trust our feelings
  • When she realized her dream job was a nightmare
  • How long it took her to end that nightmare
  • How she knew to trust her inner voice that told her to travel
  • The empowerment behind saying "I get to leave"
  • How the loss of her brother has affected her
  • Her gratitude and presence challenge
  • The interesting technique she uses to keep her present
  • How we can "color outside the lines" in our daily lives
  • An "Exploration Fund" - what it is and why you may want one
  • Where Katrina is traveling to next
  • Her advice to someone who may be stuck in life

Then, in AFTER THOUGHTS, Colleen asks: What can we be doing to create more, express ourselves more deeply, add fun to our days, and pursue our interests? Right here. Right now. (The photo below will show you what she's now doing.) 

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

Following somebody else’s path doesn’t lead to my own personal happiness.
— Katrina McGhee
Investing an intentional amount of money holds you to a goal.
— Katrina McGhee
I’m here to experience life and help others.
— Katrina McGhee

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 From AFTER THOUGHTS:  The stolen end of Colleen's dining table   

From AFTER THOUGHTS:

The stolen end of Colleen's dining table

 

 

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TAL #052 DAVID B. WATTS

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • What life as a private investigator really looks like
  • Trusting in the next thing to appear in his life
  • The pleasure David gets from writing
  • How he's turned his career into creating content
  • What drives him to love his work
  • How one secretary's reconsideration altered his career
  • Appreciating the way things in life appear
  • One of his most interesting investigations
  • How technology has changed and what he wishes he had years ago
  • The data a licensed investigator has access to
  • The key to working well with a spouse
  • Letting the work speak for itself
  • Social changes over the last five decades
  • His advice on taking your career and writing a book about it

Stay tuned for AFTER THOUGHTS as Colleen reflects on the ways society has changed and she considers what we might do to make this world a little less coarse and a little more hope-filled.

QUOTES OF NOTE:

Opportunities are not always that visible, sometimes you have to make them.
— David B. Watts
Being honest and trying to do the best for people usually works.
— David B. Watts
Hope is not dead.
— David B. Watts

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TAL #051 KATHE CRAWFORD

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • Kathe's story + her secret

  • A devastating diagnosis + the price of a promise of silence

  • The length of time it took to set herself free from the secret

  • Her search for happiness

  • Learning the teachings of spirituality

  • What removed the shield around her heart

  • Being lost in life and other's stories

  • What she had to learn to do to live a rich + full life

  • Learning what love is

  • How to open your heart with loved ones

  • Tapping into the wisdom of our hearts

  • How we can begin to un-story ourselves

  • The people we should surround ourselves with

  • The "Your Truth(full) Life" community

  • How Kathe was inspired to write her story

  • How her life changed when she released her story

Stay tuned for AFTER THOUGHTS as Colleen talks about what happens when we share the light of wisdom gained from sharing our stories and how she'll be bringing the podcast to life during a live event with Kathe in September 2018.  

And, the live event, Courageous Conversations, has occurred and it was a wonderful afternoon of connection. Thank you to everyone who attended and I’ll see you at the next event!

QUOTES OF NOTE:

I have a choice to stay stuck in my story, stuck in what was, or; I have a chance to step into the brilliance of myself and who I am.
— Kathe Crawford
Love yourself because when you learn to love yourself you can then give love, receive love, and be love.
— Kathe Crawford
When I got rid of the shame and I got rid of the fear of judgment, everything changed.
— Kathe Crawford

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 Kathe's gift to you when you order her book.  Click image for all the details.

Kathe's gift to you when you order her book.

Click image for all the details.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 My copy of Kathe's book with all 82 flags.

My copy of Kathe's book with all 82 flags.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Previous TAL episode mentioned during the show:

TAL with Catherine Greer

 

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TAL #050 CATHERINE GREER

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • Aging + the shackling pressure to appear younger than we are
  • What sparked Catherine's decision to go gray at age 50
  • Why she stopped apologizing for loving beauty
  • Finding our authentic voices
  • Learning to age better
  • Thoughts on "classic age"
  • Beginning her creative career at age 48
  • Catherine's one key to happiness
  • The power in releasing blame in a relationship
  • Why trying to be fun to live with is important
  • The Kindness Revolution: what it is and how to participate in it
  • Her mission to inspire and show possibility to others 
  • Why NOW is the time
  • How she is different at age 50 than she was at age 30

Stay tuned for AFTER THOUGHTS where Colleen shares the power of aligning ourselves to people who can help us get closer to realizing our dreams and why we should consider adding happiness to our day for no special reason.

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

I just love beauty everywhere.
— Catherine Greer
You get more of what you focus on.
— Catherine Greer
We’re here to express ourselves.
— Catherine Greer

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SHOW NOTES:

Catherine's website

Jacaranda Snow 

Love, Lie, Repeat - book and link coming soon!

Choosing Happiness 

 

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TAL #049 RICHIE SANTA

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • Richie's thoughts on if Elvis is still alive
  • That "extra something" Elvis had
  • How Richie first discovered Elvis
  • The process of becoming Elvis (+ the outfits!)
  • The number of shows he's performed
  • What makes a great audience
  • On posing with the lady fans
  • Why Elvis' success is unmatched
  • Graceland: why every fan must visit at least once
  • The other artists Richie is able to emulate
  • What he believes is needed to be successful
  • Advice to anyone not living their passion
  • How to go after what you want in life
  • The importance of having the support of others when trying to make a dream happen

Then, in AFTER THOUGHTS Colleen shares how this interview came to be and how you can find inspiration from a stranger by simply saying hello. 

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

It’s part of my happiness. It’s part of what fuels me. It’s part of what keeps me going. It’s part of what I look forward to.
— Richie Santa
I just decided to do what I like and not do what I don’t like.
— Richie Santa
You can coast through life and never take any risks but in order to really live and not just exist, you have to jump, you have to take a shot at something.
— Richie Santa

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 What it looked like when I met Richie in Asbury Park.  June 2018

What it looked like when I met Richie in Asbury Park.

June 2018

 

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TAL #048 MARY DOWLING

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • What Mary learned about our need to live a life filled with love at any time of life
  • Shifting from long-distance to local caregiving
  • Realizing the reality, dread, sadness, and responsibility of what was ahead
  • Raising children to thrive while watching a parent decline
  • How the emotional process of her mom's Alzheimer's diagnosis was different than her dad's Cancer
  • What she wishes she had done more of when caring for her mom
  • Finding ways to connect with a person in the late stages of dementia
  • Ways of dealing with losing a parent
  • Hitting a wall due to the stress and loss of connection of caring for a person living with dementia
  • Control as a coping mechanism
  • The Clicker! And how Mary channeled her inner MacGyver with Krazy Glue, wires, clamps and batteries
  • Involving her school-aged children in the care of her mom
  • Stepping into her mom's reality
  • Legal guardianship
  • Feeling resentment and losing it after finding support 
  • Delayed grief and the surprising moment that let the emotional floodgates open
  • Retrospectively taking stock of caregiving accomplishments
  • How memories of her mom have shifted two years after her death

 

In AFTER THOUGHTS Colleen shares her feelings for Mary and her mother because of the important roles they played in her life and the life of her father. And then she shares her thoughts on love as it relates to persons living with dementia. 

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

We all want that feeling of being loved and wanted and needed and seen and looked for.
— Mary Dowling
You will survive.
— Mary Dowling
If you try to pretend like you can do it all and it’s effortless and you’re so on top of it and you’ve got it all together, you’re going to crash and burn.
— Mary Dowling

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SHOW NOTES:

Mary is living a private life off the grid. If you'd like to get in touch with her, contact Colleen below and she'll be happy to connect you. 

 The "Bobbin For Apples Pudding Cake"

The "Bobbin For Apples Pudding Cake"

 

 

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TAL #047 ERICA HORNTHAL

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • Dance/Movement Therapy: what it is and how it is (and isn't) like traditional talk therapy
  • How Erica blended two things that clicked for her and turned them into a career
  • What a dance/movement therapy session looks like
  • Movement therapy to release trauma
  • Acknowledging the emotions we hold in our bodies
  • Movement as a way to quicken therapy
  • Who can best benefit from movement therapy
  • Ways of connection to ourselves and others holistically
  • Body scanning as a way to bring emotional wellness
  • Meeting others in the moment as a way to validate their emotions
  • The science behind movement's impact on our brains and mental health
  • The benefits of emotional release, expression, connection, social engagement, self-awareness, and self-esteem
  • Why your body is your biggest tool for feeling better emotionally
  • How Erica practices what she preaches (and how we can as well)
  • Somatic Countertransference: what it is and how to prevent it
  • Taking responsibility for our emotions
  • Changing your outlook through movement

 

In AFTER THOUGHTS Colleen adds to the discussion about somatic countertransference and how she chose to consciously throw away feelings of negativity.

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

It’s okay to not be okay.
— Erica Hornthal
We tend to focus on what we’ve lost, not what we’re still capable of.
— Erica Hornthal
Your body is your biggest tool to make yourself feel better.
— Erica Hornthal

LISTEN TO THE SHOW:

 

SHOW NOTES:

Erica's website for Chicago Dance Therapy

Erica on Twitter

Erica on Instagram

Erica on Facebook

American Dance Therapy Association  

 

LET'S DANCE:

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TAL #046 JACK ARPERT

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • What Jack has seen while traveling the world for five years
  • Bridging the gap between fear and possibility
  • The role Jack's mom played in his dream of travel + reflections on their evolved relationship
  • How the wisdom of his 19-year-old self looks different at 27
  • What he is happy not to have looming over him
  • How he finances travel
  • The one thing we can do to live more sustainably
  • His views on America after traveling abroad
  • How to re-evaluate obligations in order to live your dreams
  • The awareness of living a conscious life
  • Connection with others and the power in hearing their stories
  • Ways to get people to talk with you
  • A few of his favorite things for travel
  • How to scare away a grizzly bear
  • How to live bigger
  • A surprising outcome from traveling

 

Then, during AFTER THOUGHTS hear how the heck Colleen met someone who is living such a life of adventure and what she (a self-confessed homebody) shares in common with Jack, a world traveler. And find out what she wants you to do today. 

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

Don’t just walk by someone. At least just smile at them.
— Jack Arpert
We need to share what is good inside of us with other people and drag what’s good out of them.
— Jack Arpert
When you can live with the ambition to positively affect as many people and as much of the planet as possible, it will come easier to you.
— Jack Arpert

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TAL #045 JUSTIN BILLS + MÉLANIE KERN

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • In light of current world affairs, two pastors from different traditions respond to the question, "Why does God allow bad things to happen?"
  • The importance of defining our idea of God
  • How institutions and the Bible inform our ideas of God
  • The biggest question of faith
  • Releasing our need for quick answers
  • Why we let our enemies make us just like them
  • How to bring different tools to the table than the tools evil is bringing
  • Bringing our energies of light and compassion to end the darkness
  • Free will and its role in negative choices
  • The power of being a faithful presence of love and hope in the face of oppression
  • Why the resilience of the human heart is greater than the forces trying to push us down
  • The power in loving and serving people in the midst of pain and suffering
  • Doing the right thing regardless of the government's actions
  • Creating a wildfire of love
  • Asking: "How do I want to respond to this?"
  • Having everything we need, just as we are in this moment
  • Why anger and frustration aren't bad when we are faced with injustice

 

Then, during AFTER THOUGHTS Colleen reflects on the conversation and questions how we can move away from the despair of world news, a new diagnosis, or a misunderstanding and create goodness.

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

Do you want to add to the noise or do you want to be raging with compassion?
— Justin Bills
Change is not dependent on a government.
— Justin Bills
Evil is an absence of goodness.
— Mélanie Kern
Light is always stronger than darkness.
— Mélanie Kern

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TAL #044 MELISSA SWEENEY

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • Reflections on Melissa's first year of college
  • What things from home she missed
  • Her dream list of care package items
  • What the first day of school was like
  • If she'd choose the same school again
  • The realization of being "the American girl" when studying abroad
  • What it was like to not get an A on a test
  • The difference between high school + college girl drama
  • How family + friend relationships have changed
  • The most challenging part of being away from home in Europe
  • What she wished her parents told her before going to college
  • What she wished her parents didn't tell her before going to college
  • The women's body positivity movement and Instagram
  • Conversation topics on campus in Europe vs. America
  • How college is changing the way she lives
  • How she sees herself now
  • Summer goals and sophomore year goals
  • The surprising difficulty of naming what we actually enjoy
  • Her advice to anyone embarking on something new

Tune in to AFTER THOUGHTS to hear Colleen reckon with the fact she was once the same age as Melissa and about reconnecting with a friend from her own college years, life in the present day, and what it all may mean.

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

You need Netflix for college.
— Melissa Sweeney
Wouldn’t it be great if people just went places to just go and experience them and not have to take pictures of themselves looking amazing? Like, I sometimes wanna sweat and look at flowers.
— Melissa Sweeney
Life is whatever you decide it to be.
— Melissa Sweeney

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SHOW NOTES:

Heathers

Gray Gardens

Mr. Brightside by The Killers

Wonderwall by Oasis

Dusk Nightclub

Fubar Nightclub

 

Previous guest episodes mentioned during the show:

TAL with Mélanie Kern

TAL with Beth Marshall

TAL with Gloria Allhiser

TAL with Clare Egan

 

LET'S DANCE:

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TAL #043 GLORIA ALLHISER

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • Gloria's Everyday Truthtelling Letters as a journey into owning her own crap
  • How reading the feelings of others helped her not feel alone
  • Social media reflecting experiences that were not her own
  • Why connecting through letters is different than through social media
  • Cultivating an intentional audience and a disciplined practice for reflection in her letters
  • Walking the line between sharing what is intimate vs. personal
  • The definition of codependency for Gloria
  • The role codependency plays in living with addictions
  • The nasty beast of active alcoholism 
  • Living in survival mode when alcoholism is present
  • The sigh of relief that is still happening in her life
  • The long road of recovery and rebuilding 
  • When medication is life-saving
  • The partner's overlooked perspective in recovery
  • The illusion of going back to normal
  • Navigating in a never before lived life
  • Viewing marriage in a new way
  • Relationship fallout, new healthy undoings, and rebuilding
  • The value of a new support network

And, during AFTER THOUGHTS Colleen reflects on what Gloria has shared and asks the question, "Are there any truths that we aren't speaking?

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

It is so healing to be able to healthfully be able to share these intimate and personal details so that other people can also find courage and compassion.
— Gloria Allhiser
We need more voices who stand up and say ‘Hey, I’m experiencing this and this is how I’m working through it’.
— Gloria Allhiser
The becoming is what happens with the undoing of all the crap.
— Gloria Allhiser

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TAL #042 CHRIS MacLELLAN

TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • What being the subject of a Pulitzer Prize nominated story was like for Chris and his partner, Richard
  • The power of storytelling for family caregivers
  • Acknowledging the generation the caree is from
  • Retrospective reflections on what he'd do differently
  • What your caree knows and wants from you
  • The two common aspects of caregiving we aren't prepared for
  • Moving past regrets to see the joy of caring
  • What love can do for another's health
  • The four things that contributed to Chris' new healthy lifestyle
  • What mindset and a visit to a psychic have in common
  • How Chris in now sharing stories on a much larger scale
  • The feeling of not being needed after loss
  • Why grief isn't over in a year
  • Ways of cataloging your experience with your loved one
  • His advice to others preparing to live after loss
  • Why even a year ago he could never have had this conversation

Stay tuned for AFTER THOUGHTS when Colleen shares something that Chris spoke of and why having the conversation about care planning is one of the most loving discussions a couple can share.

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

The one person who wants you to take good care of yourself is the person that you’re caring for.
— Christopher MacLellan
Be prepared for the rollercoasters.
— Christopher MacLellan
My faith tells me that I will see him again. My mind tells me that he’s forever pain-free. And my heart tells me he’s standing right beside me.
— Christopher MacLellan

 

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TAL #041 TERRY PRINCE

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • All about getting rid of the stuff a loved one leaves behind
  • What to focus on during this stressful process
  • Who should handle which memorabilia
  • How to set yourself up to sort through things
  • The amount of time to allow for getting through it all
  • What to do with old photographs
  • Tips on storing old ephemera
  • The surprises you may find
  • Sentimental objects and siblings
  • Hidden places to look for objects of value
  • What to pull from the home first
  • How to determine an object's value
  • Preventing conflict among family members
  • When to consider adding a codicle to the will
  • The value of taking photos of the home before clearing it out
  • Considerations in donating objects
  • The Museum of Self
  • Ways to curate family photos
  • The importance of digitally backing up photos
  • What to do with old trophies

Stay tuned for AFTER THOUGHTS as Terry shows us how to create a Museum of Self

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

Expect conflict. It will happen.
— Terry Prince
Talk to people, don’t keep it all in while you’re going through the process.
— Terry Prince
It will pass in time and it’s gonna be emotional, but it’s a part of life.
— Terry Prince

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 A vintage Queen Mary pen like Terry mentioned, remember these pens? 

A vintage Queen Mary pen like Terry mentioned, remember these pens? 

 

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TAL #040 BETH SCIBIENSKI

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • How she and her husband met and who he was as a person
  • Living + loving within chronic illness
  • Beth's biggest struggle in caring for her husband
  • Processing the projected fears of others
  • How we can handle more than we think we can
  • Her "grief button" theory
  • The promise she made to herself after her husband's death
  • The relationship between grief and fear 
  • The benefits of massage in her healing
  • The liberation of setting the bar low 
  • Radically slowing down life after loss
  • How she learned to be merciful
  • What tapping into her inner wisdom looked like
  • Going from a "we" to a "me" 
  • The beauty in accepting what is happening
  • Navigating her congregation through their shared loss
  • Why she'll be writing to Facebook COO, Sheryl Sandberg
  • Reconsidering intimacy and the "vomit method"
  • The gift she gave herself
  • Considerations to anyone experiencing the first year of loss

Stay tuned for AFTER THOUGHTS as Beth reads poems about death (that aren't total downers) and shares what the loss of her husband gave her.

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

I want my family to know their mom is strong enough to grieve.
— Beth Scibienski
Be very kind to yourself and do all the things that you need to do even if they don’t seem like they’re on the right list.
— Beth Scibienski
Grief is proof you loved.
— Beth Scibienski
 Image by Mitchell Toy

Image by Mitchell Toy

 

Previous TAL episode mentioned during the show:

TAL with Beth Marshall

 

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TAL #039 CHARLES LEVIN

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • How the game of poker relates to life
  • How a career in retail, then IT, (and a touch of philosophy) helped create his third career as an author
  • Why writing is more satisfying than retail and IT
  • Pulling from the unconscious mind and creating from the conscious mind to create good writing
  • The thought-provoking ideas of ethics and technology
  • What's important in life and how we define happiness
  • How asking "What could go wrong?" helps drive a narrative
  • The philosophical questions within his book, Not So Dead
  • If we could live forever digitally, would that be okay?
  • Two things to watch for in every movie and television show
  • What writing in the morning keeps us closer to
  • Writing tips, tricks, habits, and techniques
  • The moment Charles first felt like a writer
  • Digital tattoos, longevity engineering, and immortalists 
  • The amazing (and scary) things going on with technology
  • The role of depression to inform living a happy life
  • The power of touch to connect us to ourselves
  • Three keys to happiness
  • The value of getting emotional support, especially when caring for others

Stay tuned for AFTER THOUGHTS to hear how Charles came to be on the show and which of Colleen's theories of life was proven after meeting him, a post-episode update on former guest Paulie Gee, and learn the signs of depression.

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

Really good writing comes from your unconscious, it comes from deep down inside you.
— Charles Levin
When I want to gain perspective on life, I walk outside, and I look up at the sky, and it can be day or night, and I realize how small and insignificant we are, and that the crazy stuff that we get hung up on is so meaningless, and won’t matter in 20 years, that we might as well really enjoy the day. So, just getting outside and being a part of nature puts me in my place.
— Charles Levin
It seems to me, the really great things in life happen when you put yourself out there.
— Charles Levin
 Charlie with Paulie Gee.  Of note: The pizza boxes were for leftovers,  not  take out (this will make sense when you listen to episode #035).   

Charlie with Paulie Gee.

Of note: The pizza boxes were for leftovers, not take out (this will make sense when you listen to episode #035).

 

 The mandate to Colleen from David Sedaris.

The mandate to Colleen from David Sedaris.

Previous TAL episode mentioned during the show:

TAL with Paulie Gee

 

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TAL #038 BETH MARSHALL

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TOPICS OF NOTE:

  • Why Beth felt like an amateur at grief
  • How journaling helped Beth process her emotions after the loss of her best friend + VW bus driving mom, Beazy
  • Tips for celebrating Mother's Day without a mom (or any big day without that certain someone)
  • A secret weapon in getting through a big day
  • The power in pre-planning
  • Respecting other's wishes to celebrate in a new way
  • How + why Lamar made Beth cry over her spinach omelet
  • What to acknowledge about this year
  • How Beth finds levity in the midst of sorrow
  • The value of sharing stories
  • What to ask for on social media (I LOVE this idea!)
  • When you may want to use crime scene tape during grieving
  • How to support others in grief
  • How to offer help (and why it's not about the taco soup)
  • Why dropping "scripture bombs" is not okay
  • The beauty of a handwritten note
  • The importance of the little things
  • What her 11-year old daughter said that gently helped her out of grieving for her mother
  • Sisterhood, Beth's exciting new project for women

Stay tuned for AFTER THOUGHTS when Beth shares her middle of the night resources to assist with your grief journey.

 

QUOTES OF NOTE:

I doubt it’s going to be a bad idea for someone to get a piece of handwritten mail.
— Beth Marshall
In the words of theologian, John Mayer, ‘Say what you need to say’.
— Beth Marshall
Fine is a four-letter word.
— Beth Marshall

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